Optimism of the Will: A case for pragmatic positivity

I like to think of myself as an optimist. There have certainly been times when I have been too optimistic. When this pandemic first began I had the same idea as many other people had that this would all be over by September, born out of hope that the situation would be short lived and never having encountered any situation of this kind before. For that reason, I’m very conscious of not wanting to talk down to my more pessimistically inclined readers. For instance, I could make the case that in terms of wealth and opportunities the world is a significantly better place now than it was 200 years ago, and while its true that several measurements of quality of life have risen over that period, we should not kid ourselves into believing thats universal. I could make the argument that optimistic people tend to live longer overall, but if your worldview is based on the fact that the future will most likely be worse, your probably not that fussed.

To my mind, optimism made rational dosen’t mean being deluded that everything will magically get better, but seeing the misery and desperation in bad situations as well as the potential and opportunities for things to get better. An example of this might be mutual aid; the setting up of support networks for individuals who are isolated as a result of the pandemic, in order to provide resources or simply serve as a means of combatting loneliness, presents a new way of thinking about those problems in general.

This is an idea popularized by Antonio Gramsci, who had every right to be miserable as he was imprisoned by Mussolini’s fascist regime in 1926 until shortly before his death in 1937. In his prison writings he noted his idea of ‘pessimism of the intellect, optimism of the will’:

“You must realize that I am far from feeling beaten. It seems to me that a man out to be deeply convinced that the source of his own moral force is in himself — his very energy and will, the iron coherence of ends and means — that he never falls into those vulgar, banal moods, pessimism and optimism. My own state of mind synthesizes these two feelings and transcends them: my mind is pessimistic, but my will is optimistic. Whatever the situation, I imagine the worst that could happen in order to summon up all my reserves and will power to overcome every obstacle”

Antonio Gramsci, Prison Notebooks

To put it another way, situations may seem dire and indeed there’s a strong chance that they are dire, but the optimistic side to that is that they can be changed through human willingness to make them better. Look at the field of autism and neurodiversity. In 50 years we’ve gone from blaming autism on ‘refrigerator mothers’, to autistic people being accepted members of society. Although, the term need not be meant in the political sense in which Gramsci intended. The ongoing coronavirus pandemic has focussed closely on the potential of collective action – the acknowledgement that we are living in desperate times, and the idea that we can suppress the virus, through the simple act of not leaving the house. You get the idea. This blog post will use this idea to make the case for a rational optimism, looking at how we can stay positive faced with the challenges of 2021 and beyond.

Uncertainty is a source of optimism and pessimism…

From an autistic perspective, 2020 was a year of unprecedented challenges for everyone, not least the disability community. Mental and physical challenges wrought from the pandemic, have dominated our lives for the past nine months. Looking more narrowly for a second, part of my autism has been having a constant awareness of these societal problems: climate change, racism, political manipulation. While these might be issues everyone worries about they serve as a constant thrum in my mind, and there have been moments when feeling that not everyone is motivated by those issues in the same way I am, has caused me to be pessimistic.

An important factor in all of this is uncertainty. The states of optimism and pessimism are based on contrasting positions about the future. Being an optimist, you have a strong sense of hope but risk disappointment. Being a pessimist, you are riddled with anxiety but may feel elated when the worst is avoided. So which is better? The magical world hypotheses posits that autistic people have impaired predictive ability. We can absorb lots of information but we can’t so instinctually use things like the behaviour of people around us to predict what might happen in the immediate future. This might serve as one source of anxiety, but also as a source of hope for those unencumbered by worries.

You should not ignore positive emotions…

Two economists, David de Meza and Chris Dawson, set out to solve the riddle of state of mind and uncertainty. They examined the responses of 1,601 individuals to two questions that they repeatedly answered every year between 1991 and 2009: “How do you think you will be financially a year from now?”. A year later they would ask them “Would you say that you are better off, worse off or the same financially than you were a year ago?”. They then looked at the well-being of these individuals to determine if the optimists or pessimists were happier or more miserable based on whether or not they achieved their aims.

Some of the conclusions from this study provide a clue as to how we might predict the future and answer questions like how will the pandemic end? There’s an important caveat I have to add to this analysis that your finances are obviously more under your control than a pandemic, but as a hypothetical look at optimism and pessimism, the concept works. First, those who accurately predicted how they would be doing a year later were happiest: okay so that’s a point scored for realism. Most of us aren’t very good at predicting and rely on our natural inclinations. However, the study also found that pessimistic people experienced 38% more distress than people who could predict, while optimists felt 12% percent more distress.  In those terms, those who live in a state of negativity experience over three times more distress—even when they are pleasantly surprised that it’s not as bad as they thought—than those who are optimistic.  Negativity can bread negativity, resulting in situations where pessimistic people can’t see past the worst possible outcome.

Negative experiences are still incredibly important…

None of this is to ignore the importance of negative emotions, as they are important for mental health. I quite often put myself in situations where I allow myself to become sad or adopt a negative frame of mind, in order to regulate myself emotionally. In therapeutic settings, the therapist will quote often encourage an outpouring of emotions, and are often encountered with situations in which the patient feels like they have to apologise for being negative. This applies on an individual and societal level:

“Positive thoughts and emotions can, of course, benefit mental health. Hedonic theories define well-being as the presence of positive emotion, the relative absence of negative emotion and a sense of life satisfaction. Taken to an extreme, however, that definition is not congruent with the messiness of real life. In addition, people’s outlook can become so rosy that they ignore dangers or become complacent”

Can Positive Thinking Be Negative?, by Scott O. Lilienfeld and Hal Arkowit

Unpleasant feelings are just as crucial as positive ones in helping you make sense of life. I know as an autistic person who is very emotionally motivated and experiences thier emotions strongly, that sadness and anxiety have been incredibly useful in helping me understand myself.

Adler Hershfield, a professor of marketing psychology, investigated the link between mixed emotional experience and psychological welfare in a group of people. Before each session, participants completed a questionnaire that assessed their psychological well-being. They also wrote narratives describing their life events, which were coded for emotional content. Alder reported numerous cases of participants feeling happy and dejected at the same time. One participant noted “I feel sad at times because of everything I’ve been through, but I’m also happy and hopeful because I’m working through my issues” . This shows a process where acknowledgement of negative emotions provided a blueprint for working through them. Understanding your sadness or comprehending a negative situation and turning that into an opportunity for change in one’s own life or on a wider scale can be ultimately positive.

An Atypical Perspective

How would we go about squaring this deeply contradictory analysis within an understanding of optimism and pessimism as a whole? The answer has to be that neither pessimism nor optimism provide a clue to happiness or making the world a better place. The first thing to remember is to be honest with ourselves about how the world is and how we feel; suppressing negative emotions is an incredibly detrimental process to ones mental health, as is ignoring the problems of society to society as a whole.

As a solution, I like to employ a pragmatic optimism, that is the crux of pessimism of the intellect, optimism of the will. That things will only get better if we acknowledge the negative, and allow that to propel us into actively changing our world, and that which surrounds us. As Noam Chomsky summarises “Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so”.

As an autisitc person, I’ve had to experience all of these emotions: happiness, uncertainty, sadness, in very pronounced way’s. I label the forward thinking approach I’ve described ‘pragmatic optimism’ as it does involve despair, anxiety and worry. Understandably, many do not want to face up to harsh realties, just as others would prefer to ignore the possibility of change. However, the intentions and opportunities of this way of broaching the divide are ultimately positive.

Dismantling Your Brand: On the phenomenon of ‘selling yourself’

Audiences have a parasocial relationships with content creators. This means that they feel like they know the person whose work they enjoy. Now, some of my readers do in fact know me but still, there’s ‘atypical perspectives’ – the blogger who makes commentary and autism theory, and then there’s the person who writes. I try and be an open book on here, but factors like the confidence with which I write, the attitude and humour I inject into my blog posts, and even my style of writing, paint an image of myself that may or may not be consistent with who I am in real life.

I bring this up because on the back of this realization that the way people see you online can be different from who you actually are, has arisen a new cultural phenomenon: ‘selling your personal brand’. This dosent refer specifically to owning the rights to a brand name and selling that to people (hey, the word ‘atypical’ is obviously meant to hook people in). No, the term refers to you personally being a brand, or at least treating yourself like one. At university I was told exactly this: use your social media presence and networking skills to project an image of yourself!

I talked to a few different people from a few different perspectives in forming this blog post and determined that how you use the term ‘brand’ is of immense importance in forming your opinion on this. Looking at my social media and this blog, you could gauge that my experience with autism is my ‘brand’ and the way I project my autism to people in order to help people make sense of thier own feelings towards themselves, determines how I’m seen within a wider ecosystem of information about autism. For some people thier brand might be dealing with grief, or sexuality, or mental health. If you put information out into the world about anything, your work will resonate with some people more than others, you’ll be entering into a parasocial relationship of trust with your readers, and rightly or wrongly, risk being judged against the standards of those making similar content.

As much as having a ‘brand’ can be good, its the idea of thinking of yourself in that way which irks me. Heinz are a brand! Sony are a brand! The idea that people can package themselves like a can of baked beans is worth calling into question. One aspect of brands is that they are easy to understand, while humans are not. In my last blog I talked about ‘masking’ – the process by which people hide behind a façade of normalcy, and as an autisitc person I find that kind of ‘brand management’ really draining. I’m very lucky that I work and socialize in environments that appreciate my social awkwardness. True, some social settings may want you to retain an air of expertise and casual arrogance but that’s never been my approach. Mine has always been to say ‘I’m not an expert, so what can I learn?’.

I don’t like the term ‘brand’ as applied to people. The term dosent acknowledge that we each have a voice which can be contradictory, complex, often wrong. Encouraging someone to brand themselves removes the nuances and weaknesses which make us human. But hey, anti-branding is also marketable!

Self-Promotion

Part of the reason this subject is contentious is the changing meaning of the word ‘brand’. The word is derived from the word firebrand – a burning piece of wood, which in itself comes from the old German word brinnan. Torches and later branding irons have been historically used to mark items like pottery, and to permanently burn identifying marks into the skin of slaves. Those marks then came to be closely associated with certain craftsmen. Since then the word has become associated with aspects like the personality, and what attributes companies or individuals want people to think about when they see thier brand. Still, its interesting to think on the original meaning of the term.

The same applies to the word ‘atypical’. If someone’s been reading my blog and then they hear something strange or out of the ordinary being described as ‘atypical’ does that mean that I’ve trademarked the word in thier mind? (that might be wishful thinking, considering people who read my blog sometimes think of the sitcom of a similar name).

Still, competitions over how others see you have spawned an entire industry. In 1997, ‘fast company’ published an article titled ‘The Brand Called YOU’ where they argued that everybody should treat themselves like celebrities or politicians. This of course relies on the very individualistic idea that everybody should strive to achieve success and that this can only be done as an individual. Indeed, its arguable that the idea of personal branding rears its often ugly head in societies where jobs within established sectors are limited, and where theres a ‘gig economy’ whereby individuals compete for work using thier digital profiles.

In uni we were frequently given the task of describing ourselves using three words which our lecturers would then asses for accuracy and effectiveness. Terms that got passed back and forth in these sessions were ‘headstrong’, ‘determined’ and ‘confident’. We were encouraged to ruthlessly promote our media skills and social networks. In fact, while I realised that these are much needed abilities for any media professional, I never understood why understanding our vulnerabilities and a trial and error approach to failing wasn’t given equal attention.

The problem with restlessly promoting a personal, tailor made image of yourself is that you get put under immense pressure to live up to that image. I was quite conscious through higher education that I was not good enough at socializing. I would spend my free time worrying that I wasn’t at the right networking events, or using twitter enough. I can’t speak for my fellow students but as an autistic person, this stuff really worried me.

“When people are trying to create a personal brand they must be always on. This introduces a new way of constantly policing yourself. It forces you to be far more instrumental about your personal life, seeing yourself as perpetually performing for a business-driven gaze”

 Ilana Gershon, author of Down and Out in the New Economy

This might mean updating feeds several times a day with carefully curated content, palatable to the people you want to socialize or work with. Competition is also biased by the fact that some people can get professional help from ‘image tailoring’ companies, or buy artificial Facebook likes, Instagram followers and other metrics of ‘success’.

Selling ‘You’

I want to take a step back for a second and look at this idea of selling your positive attributes, which we’ve all done either through job applications or socializing apps etc. In this case, someone could argue that its not about fakery or projecting an image, its about asking ‘what brand am I already?’. This can be useful advice in some circumstances. For instance if people are going to make assumptions about you based on what you say and do, why not work on being warm and friendly, and projecting your best qualities. Hell, I’m quite keen on avoiding using language which is offensive and outdated, and dosent that have a strong ‘branding effect’ where people see you in a certain way because of the language you use?

All that is all well and good, and there is a case to be made for a sort of self-affirming personal branding whereby your kind to yourself by acknowledging your positive side and acting on that. But what about cases where the version of ‘you’ that people see out in the open is different from who you really are, for reasons outside of your control? If you have ever experienced any form of ‘imposter syndrome’ – the process by which someone feels like they are putting on a façade to a judgmental world – then you’ll know what I mean.

I want to make absolutely clear before we go any further that for some – whether as a tool for dealing with mental health struggles, or otherwise – running a blog or a channel and treating your that as your ‘brand’, can be a great outlet for expression. I know that talking about my autism through this blog has been a blessing, allowing me to articulate my thoughts in ways I couldn’t over casual conversation. Indeed, while I personally prefer to avoid using the consumerist language of ‘brands’ and ‘labels’ to describe what I do, others might have a different set of sensibilities.

That said, many spend thier lives having to project images of themselves, which act like masks on who they really are. I’ve already done a blog about autistic camouflage but I can assure you that trying to tailor a brand for yourself is a different experience if your already pretending to be ‘normal’ most of the time. What about if your on the LGBTQ+ spectrum and afraid to come out for fear of ridicule from your peers? is that not playing a role in order to be accepted? If your someone who comes from another country you might find yourself constricted by cultural barriers that you struggle to professionally navigate. This is why I tend to skew towards seeing ‘personal brands’ as manufactured personas. While some may be able to be themselves and treat that as thier brand, how easily could you do that if you constantly felt the need to hide your authentic self ? The biggest problem with the idea of ‘selling yourself’ is that it assumes that everybody starts from the same place of privelege and ease, even while some have thier humanity called into question. If we’re talking about retaining an image, what about those who go about thier routines, establish relationships and careers despite the constant possibility of being discriminated against or harassed on the basis of sex, skin colour or disability?

All this presents some very serious concerns about how we approach personal brands, as a concept. For clarity, I’m not saying that we should trash the idea completely, especially if its one that helps some. That said, I do think we need to consider what we’re asking when we tell people to brand themselves, and listen to those who experience thier personhood differently. One reason I don’t like the terminology is that describing people as brands seems to treat them as resources or capital. The question we should be asking when we encourage people to reshape or market themselves is ‘are we encouraging expression or exploitation?’

An Atypical Perspective…

Our media and means of expression should value peoples identities: With complete honesty, this is something popular media has always been historically bad at. In a sense, performance culture – that is to say one which encourages people to live up to artificial standards of ‘what you need to do to succeed’ – can be traced back to the way advertisers portray bodies, relationships careers etc. However, not only does this set ridiculous standards, but it devalues the experiences of people in marginalized groups who spend thier lives attempting to meet an expectation, or ‘masking’ part of thier identity. I’m not certain that ‘selling your brand’ encourages individuality, and think more thought can be given to how we stop the trend from being exploitative.

Self esteem and mental health are vital: While having an outlet to express oneself can be good for ones mental health, by asking people to develop a ‘personal brand’ we risk burdening them with a lack of self esteem where they worry constantly about how they are perceived by some abstract image of ‘professionals’ or ‘popular groups’. I feel this risks creating a culture where we believe that its for people in positions of authority to judge you rather than the other way around. Whatsmore, no institution or way of ‘selling yourself’ should work to the detriment of your mental health.

Self expression is generally positive: Insofar as a ‘personal brand’ provides opportunities for self expression and openness it can be seen as a useful tool. Issue being, do we choose to view these means of expression as a consumer product? We’ve seen through some films and music how introducing market logic into creativity can result in generic output or at least put the pursuit of creativity and honesty second to reaching an artificial standard of clicks and sales. One of the most important questions to ask with treating creative work or people as brands is ‘does this unleash or stifle freedom of expression?’. I fear that if I tried to answer that question on my own, I’d be employing my own ideology too much, so I’ll leave the answer to the perspectives of my readers.

Difficult Discussions: Where autism meets mental health

Tomorrow, as I publish this, is World Mental Health Day.

I’m not paticulary one for new years resolutions but the two I always make are a promise to talk to people more – seeing what I can learn be that from a colleague or a friend, and to keep check of my mental health. This year has not made either of those easy, and look, despite the urge to say ‘things are okay’, Its equally fine to admit that they are not.

Though, this is not another post about the pandemic. Its about understanding the connection between mental health and autism. Up to 70% of autisitc people experience mental health issues such as anxiety and depression. While I have never been diagnosed with any mental health conditions, I quite often feel a lingering sense of anxiety, and alongside that a lack of confidence in myself which only subsides at times where I’m comfortable in my routines and understanding of the world. We don’t know exactly what’s responsible for the prevalence of these difficulties in people on the spectrum. That said, there is research to indicate that a feeling of autism not being accepted as a positive aspect of ones personality leads to feelings of alienatiation.

I’m conscious of the way my autism marks me out as different both outwardly through affecting things like my speech, reactions and coordination and inwardly by impacting my ability to process multiple sensory stimuli at once, making me quite emotionally vulnerable. All these can show in social situations and therefore having my autism accepted is important to me. I have been in situations where I feel some of these aspects have ostracized me, making me feel somewhat depressed.

As human beings we have a natural desire to be accepted and to belong to a group. For autistic people, this presents a dichotomy where we can either disclose our autism and risk having it met blankly, or put on a façade of ‘normalcy’ and risk appearing strange to other people if we don’t ‘camaflagoue’ effectively. Both these forms of lack of acceptance can be harmful to an autistic persons mental wellbeing.

Interacting with emotion

One of the main challenges in confronting mental health difficulties and autism is deciphering the difference between the symptoms of anxiety and depression, and those of autism…

Take socializing. How do you distinguish between someone with no interest in social interaction and someone who who is incredibly socially anxious? And is it fear of ridicule thats driving that, or a generalized ‘irrational’ fear of talking to people? One of my special interests has always been in media. I’ve always admired journalists and creators, like those who investigated the Cambridge Analytica scandal and music journalists who have built up a reputation as freelancers. In uni I was understandably told I needed to be at all the cultural events, asking questions, reporting on social media, pushing myself to the forefront of the public eye. I’m getting far better at networking although its by no means easy, and while I took great pride in my special interest, I remember metaphorically beating myself up over the fact that I didn’t think of myself as confident or ‘savvy’ enough. I very much had and have a lasting uncertainty about the way my occasional lack of confidence would effect me in life.

I do certainly have a need to be on my own at times. That said, I don’t have any trauma from past attempts to socialize, which puts me in a semantic quandary, as only that would technically qualify as ‘anxiety’. The problem is that we’re thinking about the problem through a limiting lens. There is now more work being done on how autistic people experience mental health difficulties. Psychologists have started looking at ASD specific difficulties including factors such as fear of the uncertain, and a more general fear of communication. One interpretation of what I went through might be that my special interest turned into a constant source of fear or worry where I feared the consequences of what would happen if I didn’t live up to my own expectations; I prefer to think of the experience as a fear and difficulty in working out ‘what comes next’ contributing to those feelings of anxiety and worthlessness.

Still, why is it that these feelings are so inescapable for a lot of people on the spectrum? I do worry more than I should – usually about trivial matters. In fact, many autistic people report the same sense of lingering anxiety, often over something as benign as a pain in thier arm or how they organise thier day. This perception of the world as overwhelming might be down to the fact that autistic people sometimes overlook certain cues leading up to an unexpected experience, and that this exacerbates anxiety and sensory overload. I know there are environments and circumstances which I consider ‘safe spaces’, and that outside of them, I feel very anxious and afraid. While the facts around this are up for debate, there is some sound research and logic to support the idea. That said, given autism and mental health are on a spectrum, it would be a mistake to group the symptoms of both in together into one umbrella theory.

The consuming nature of how your mental health treats you, often makes you feel like no explanation can quantify how your feeling. I have states where my happiness is so overwhelming that the last thing I want is logic to come along and ruin my positivity, just as I’m sometimes in a state where even the idea that what I’m going through has a rational explanation, fills me with dread. That’s what this next section will look at.

Taking off the Mask

Lets return to this idea of distinguishing between a difficulty with mental health and a symptom of autism.

Going through a dark patch in your mental health seeps the life from you. However long it lasts, time seems to drag while its going on. You feel either a sense of worthlessness in yourself and your achievements accompanied by a sort of bleak negativity in everything around you, or a constant uncertainty in your actions which makes you procrastinate, worrying that everything you do is wrong or of no use to anybody. Physically, these sensations are met with extreme tiredness or aching.

I might call these patches autistic burnout or depressive episodes. However, I see both as interlinked. I’ve described before how I’m emotionally sensitive. So, something as small as a mean comment or a huge disappointment can impact me, messing me up mentally or bringing down my mood for perhaps a whole day. Another potentially harmful stage is the process of ‘biting my lip’ and muddling through, while trying to maintain a somewhat positive façade. This exhausts mental energy which further saps my ability to interact and communicate, all of which has the potential to create a rather vicious cycle of poor mental health.

Thankfully its not all negative. I have built up a level of awareness that allows me to realise when I’m going through a dark patch in my mental health and stop it spiraling into something bigger by seeking emotional support and trying to understand how I’m feeling through documenting my experiences. That’s not to say that everybody can do that. I realise that getting out of that cycle is difficult. In the period between leaving university and initially struggling to find work, my stagnant position led to a self-fulfilling feeling of hopelessness, which undermined my health both physically and mentally.

On a wider scale, this has serious effects. Autistic people are four times more likely than neurotypicals to experience feelings of dejection, insignificance and depression. This can severely impact even our previously learned independence skills. I know from experience, that not getting the opportunity to socially interact, makes my confidence plummet. It also warrants pointing out that autistic people are at alarmingly high risk of suicidality. I’ve been lucky enough never to have been in that frame of mind, even though I’m conscious of anybody’s potential to feel like that at some point in thier life. I’m also paticulary moved by the stories of those autistic people close to me, who have been through that degrading and awful mindset.

“People with autism often struggle to imagine the thoughts and feelings of others, including their own future selves. As a result, they may have trouble believing they will ever feel better. They can also easily become overwhelmed by the small but complex problems of everyday life and respond with extreme thoughts or statements”

Sara Deweert, Spectrum news

I had to include that quote as its so accurate, to the way I and many others have felt. When your emotionally hurting, one of the irrational questions that rears its head is ‘am I going to feel like this forever?’, and thats a scary mindset to get stuck in. I’ve never been very good at solutions, but the one thing I will ask you to do if you know somebody suffering with mental health difficulties or you think theres a possibility that somebody might be, is to show compassion. Just as a negative experience such as the pandemic can embed us in ways of thinking which feel inescapable, something as simple as a kind message from a friend can remind us of all those times when we’ve felt positive and that we will feel that way again. Remind somebody of that, this mental health day.

An Atypical Perspective…

Autistics experience mental health in different ways: We cannot look at mental health in autistic people through a purely neurotypical lens. While many peoples struggles to socially interact might be offset by past experience, many of us just feel naturally socially anxious. Whereas most have the ability to process changes in thier environment or circumstances quickly, our ability to understand and comprehend these changes may be severely impaired. Importantly, through the process of masking and wondering whether or not to disclose, we exhaust a large amount of mental energy which could be better spent. Obviously everyone’s mental health difficulties deserve attention, and nobody is more important than anybody else, but not everybody experiences thier mind in the same way. Realising that is surely a vital stepping stone in the pathway towards supporting individuals, over stereotypes.

Mental Health States can be consuming (and thats okay): As always, I can only speak for myself here but I know as an autistic person who is conscious of thier mental health, I can be overwhelmingly happy at times and utterly miserable at others. Its only in those two extremes that I can fully decipher how I’m feeling. When you occupy either of those mindframes, it colours every other aspect of your life, making you unable to see past your current emotion. Especially in negative mental states, its important to hold on to the knowledge that things are rarely that black and white and that the sensation your feeling is not inescapable, even if that does seem like more of an uncomfortable truth than something thats wholly reassuring. Through having that reassurance, we can realise that our mindsets are temporary and seek to understand why we’re feeling that way.

Compassion is aspirational: The simple act of sending a kind message to a friend is the baseline level of compassion and is definitely an amazing behaviour. However, compassion on a grander scale is worth aspiring towards. I’ve been trying to make myself and others feel better by reaching out to people I haven’t spoken to in a while and making plans to see them when conditions allow. In the long run, I’d like the current pandemic to result in more community initiatives to help the most vulnerable, every workplace becoming somewhere where people can feel mentally reassured, and mental health facilities expanded to reflect the wide array of experiences people have. While building fully compassionate societies cannot be achieved overnight, as a goal it provides a blueprint for making the spaces we interact in receptive to the needs of autistic people and all those struggling with thier own mental state.